Erin | Self-Love Spotlight


Every month, we invite one Booty Parlor fan to tell our Founder Dana B. Myers all about their journey to self-love and sensuality.

Erin, The Turn-On Goddess

"Embrace your desires and let your sensuality lead the way!"

Name: Erin Kaley

Age: 33

Location: Mallorca, Spain

Relationship: Open Marriage


Welcome to another edition of our Self Love Spotlight! In this feature, we shine a light on amazing real women and their practices of self-love, sensuality, and confidence.

We are so excited to share our Self-Love Spotlight of the month. A vivacious life, love, & sex coach, Erin transforms the concept of self-love into an active, daily journey of self-prioritization and exploration.

In our interview, Erin shares her inspiring journey of discovering herself and what it means to live a turned-on life full of finding pleasure in everyday moments! Step into Erin's world, where self-love is an exhilarating adventure, and every moment is an opportunity to awaken your truest, most alive self.

Watch Erin's Spotlight Interview

Q. What does self-love mean to you?

Erin: The first thing to understand is that self-love is a verb—it's more than just a feeling, it's an everyday action. Of course, I know that life gets busy. We all have work. We all have things to do. Some of us have kids. Some of us have way too many things on our to-do list. But self-love is prioritizing yourself. It’s checking in with yourself, and being like, What do I want? Do I want ice cream today or do I want foreplay? What do I want? And it's like, can you give yourself the space to explore that? And can you give yourself the space to just check in and see what you want? Because that changes over time, and what you need changes. And it’s one thing to meet our needs. It's another thing to meet our desires. And I really do believe that's what self-love is. Finding a way to do both.

Q. What’s one thing you would tell your younger self?

Erin: “I would tell her that the best is yet to come. When I was younger, I was bullied. I wasn't the cool kid in school. I didn't know what I was doing. And I didn't even have a vibrator until my second year of university! I had no clue. Now, I would tell her that life is a constant practice of discovering who you are… because there's no end to it. I would tell her not to focus on the things you're lacking and that everything is unfolding for you. And that life is just so much fun. It doesn't have to be a grueling process. It's fun. It's a game. And if you choose to play it that way, then it's going to be a freaking great time!"

Q. What do sensuality and turn-on mean to you?

Erin: “I describe “Turn-On” as this aliveness feeling. To be turned on is to be interested, to be intrigued, to be alive. You feel awake. It’s about really connecting to people… not settling… not just getting complacent, and not being in the passenger seat!  You are in the moment. You can feel everything, and you feel energized, and you feel excited and intrigued and alive. That's the best way to describe it."

Q. How do you practice this state of being Turned On?

Erin: “It comes down to daily pleasure. You can come down to the basics like the most simple way is just to practice giving yourself what you want. You ask yourself: What do you desire? And whatever pops up in your mind, you give it to yourself. I don't care if it's an ice cream cone. I don't care if it's like going out to coffee with your lover or having a nap. It doesn't have to be something major. It’s just about you fulfilling your desires in the moment, big or small. I think that's when we come to life!"

Q. So, on the products, tell me, what are your favorites?

Erin: Glamour Puss is my top pick. It offers a beautiful, intimate practice connecting you with yourself daily. Its aesthetic, feel, and simplicity make it a delightful addition to my routine. And it's fun to do the ritual in the mirror. It's fun to see how your face changes when you touch yourself with it. It is a turned-on feeling, and I'm like, “oh, this is a her and me thing,” when I apply it. That's my relationship with me, and I love it. It's like my secret power."

Q. Do you have a celebrity crush? ?

Erin: “Yes. Blake Lively. 100% gorgeous."

Q. What part of your body do you love the most?

Erin: “I love my butt… Its curvaceousness and the joy of training it in the gym make it a fun body part.”

Q. What's your favorite cocktail?

Erin: “I got really into gin and tonics! They have all these craft gins here in Mallorca, and there's spicy ones and citrus ones and flowery ones… It’s just a really refreshing drink, and it's fun to sip on.” 

Q. Fill in the blank. I feel sexiest and most confident when...

Erin: “I feel sexiest and most confident when I've had a moment with myself in the mirror. A dance party. Even more so when I connect with my own eyes.”

Erin's Faves

Erin's Glamour Puss Ritual

Tell us about your favorite Booty Parlor products and how you use them.

Erin: Glamour Puss it’s a beautiful product, and I think what is also beautiful, aside from the smell and the feel and the texture and how it literally melts on your fingertips, is that it connects you with your pussy. Like, how beautiful is that? It’s such an intimate practice. And it's something that's so beautiful that you do want to do it every day, that it becomes easy to practice pleasure every day. It's about you touching yourself and you having hands on yourself and you connecting with her. And it's fun to do in the mirror. It's fun to see how your face changes when it touches you. It is a turned-on ritual. If you're curious about what the turn-on feeling is, try Glamour Puss.”

Erin's Spotlight Gallery

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Want to put your Self-Love in the Spotlight?

Every month, we invite one Booty Parlor fan to tell our Founder Dana B. Myers all about their journey to self-love and sensuality.

In exchange, we gift you with some of your favorite Booty Parlor products and you’ll be the star of a virtual boudoir photo-shoot with BP photographer Tori Elizabeth.